Last week I visited Geneve, Switzerland, for one night on my way to the great conference that the French group organized in Toulouse. More on the conference in subsequent posts. Here I want to write on something else.
On my way from the lakefront of Lake Leman, where I spent a couple of hours refereeing papers, to the hotel, I came across a preschool. Two slogans were written on a wall, one next to the other.
The first slogan says “Pour avoir des amis il faut les respecter”: to have friends one must respect them. I salute to the insight of the Genevians.
The second slogan is not less insightful: “Le respect c’est accepter quelqu’un même si on ne l’aime pas”: respect is accepting someone even if you don’t like him.
Even though each sentence separately makes sense, when one puts them next to each other the conclusion is rather grim. There is a reason why kids ignore what they teach them in school.



5 comments
September 17, 2011 at 6:04 pm
Anonymous
Why is it grim?
September 17, 2011 at 6:34 pm
Anonymous
because it means you may not like your friends in actual fact but try to be nice to them for the sake of keeping them as friends
September 20, 2011 at 9:05 pm
Dismalist
If I don’t like someone, why would I want him as a friend?
The two slogans together devalue the meaning of friendship–to meaninglessness.
October 5, 2011 at 10:40 pm
Anonymous
This is interesting. The first one states respect is required for friendship, but may not be sufficient. The second one states respect is accepting but dislike is not a necessary part.
Put it in a simple way. One can respect 100 people and choose to make friends with 50 of them because he doesn’t like the other 50.
November 4, 2011 at 3:22 pm
Anonymous
That sounds correct